The annual Valentine’s Day post.
February 13th, 2008Parts of this have appeared many places over the years, in a variety of forms. Its antecedents were message board posts, emails, blog entries, and conversations stretching back to the 90s. When people started requesting a repost or copy of the original thing, I started jotting new notes on the same old crumpled napkin. When my professional writing activity extended beyond fiction, I rehashed or amplified some of this stuff in various articles on sex and/or relationships. The current version is an amalgamation of all those things.These are just things I know. There are other things I don’t know. Some of it I learned from mistakes I made, some from mistakes I saw, some from mistakes made against me. If you and I don’t want the same thing, it shouldn’t be a shock if my map leads you somewhere you didn’t mean to be.
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